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mediamattersforamerica:

"How can you be so poor and have all this stuff?" -Bill O’Reilly

Each of these screenshots is from a different Fox show attacking poor Americans for having amenities, trying to make the point (pretty much) that “when I was a kid, poor people had a lot less than this.”

Of course, this is all based on one thoroughly-debunked Heritage Foundation report that conservative media have been parroting for years.

Breaking news for Fox: We’re not in the 1950’s anymore. As technology advances, each year older technology gets less and less expensive, and therefore more working class Americans are able to access it. 

Matt Yglesias elaborates

A serious person would follow this up with a discussion of relative prices. Over the past 50 years, televisions have gotten a lot cheaper and college has gotten a lot more expensive. Consequently, even a low income person can reliably obtain a level of television-based entertainment that would blow the mind of a millionaire from 1961. At the same time, if you’re looking to live in a safe neighborhood with good public schools in a metropolitan area with decent job opportunities you’re going to find that this is quite expensive. Health care has become incredibly expensive. The federal poverty line for a family of three is $18,530 a year. I wonder how many Heritage Foundation policy analysts are deciding they want to cut back and work part time because it’d be super easy to raise two kids in DC on less than $20k in salary? Perhaps just an outfit full of workaholics.

While Fox is so busy pointing out how many people have access to microwaves and refrigerators, they conveniently forget to mention how many people have poor access to quality education, health care, and affordable housing. Because really, what good is an A/C if you can’t even afford to keep living in your house? 

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Anonymous asked:

I had a best friend and love interest with BPD, we ended the relationship..but I want to know more about people with BPD in relationships. I didn't understand why she made up problems and hated me one minute and adored me the next. I would really like to know from someone with BPD, because I really do love her and wish to know more even though we are no longer in a relationship.

shitborderlinesdo answered:

I don’t think people with BPD “make up problems” as much as they do see a single problem and their imagination expands off of that single problem until it turns into all of these fears which SEEM unfounded to the non-BPD but make perfect sense to someone with the disorder. Please don’t accuse someone with BPD of “making up problems.” It’s a silencing tactic, and even borderline breakdowns are triggered by something. We never do things for “no reason.” Are we melodramatic? Sure. But we don’t make up things to be upset about. We don’t pick fights. If we’re feeling upset, THERE IS A REASON FOR THAT.

The thing about borderline folks in relationships is we are constantly afraid you are lying to us. 1) We probably had to experience being lied to a lot before, probably a lot of it starting in childhood. 2) Professionals and published books everywhere make us out to be impossible to love. We read those books. We believe them. Then someone comes up and says they love us? Liars. 3) We live in an ableist society which is constantly abusing us and we never know if you’re a friend or a foe. 4) OUR BRAINS ARE CONSTANTLY FIGHTING AGAINST US. Constantly. All the time. I’m sitting here trying to eat a sandwich right now, and my brain is coming up with reasons why I shouldn’t do that. I’ve counted eleven reasons now. That’s my brain constantly. And if someone came up to me and said, “Just eat the damn sandwich, Mea,” I’d probably yell at them because I’d feel invalidated.

It’s hard to love someone and feel like they hate you, I know. BPD involves a lot of splitting (black and white thinking) and sometimes you may be in the Black. You’re the bad guy. And that hurts! Your pain is valid, and they’ll owe you an apology when it’s over. But I think it’s important for you to understand that whatever is happening, they are the ones with the mental illness and they are the ones who are dealing with it 24/7. Someone else’s borderline may hurt your feelings, but it abuses them on a constant basis. Empathize! Validate their feelings. Ask questions. Figure out what triggered the breakdown and do what you can to help. Remember that mentally ill people are victims, and while that doesn’t excuse them to victimize someone else, they are still victims and should be treated as such.

-Mea

gradientlair

When I say ‘I’ve never seen Dirty Dancing, any Aflred Hitchcock movie, any Star Wars film, the Die Hard series, the Terminator movies, that dancing one Kevin Beacon is famous for, Top Gun, a James Bond movie, etc,’ you should see the look on people’s faces. Black people who have immersed themselves in dominant culture kinda give me a ‘really?’ look, but white people are simply flabbergasted. They’re confused, lost, sometimes offended. But then if I ask them ‘well, have you seen Coming To America, Crooklyn, Lean On Me, Raisin In The Sun, Do The Right Thing, School Daze, Harlem Nights, Women of Brewster Place, The Color Purple, etc,’ those same white people seem taken back that they would have been expected to see those films/play.

It’s like this entitlement to have your cultural phenomena known and appreciated when you clearly refuse to even acknowledge the contributions of others.

Not only do people of color tend to be intimately familiar with the cultural tastes of white people while having our cultural contributions ignored when not being appropriated, we’re expected to…and that’s where I have a problem.

christel-thoughts

This!!!! This…is so important. I am tired of White supremacy being the standard by which what aspects of popular culture are determined to be valuable or not. And truly sick of Black culture being simultaneously hyper-consumed for appropriation, but erased through devaluation.

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